Try to understand the real reason why you are angry. Is it the current situation that is making you angry or something that happened earlier in the day?

Notice when you start to become angry, and take steps to deal with your anger in a positive way. Don't ignore your anger until you "blow up." Express your anger in healthy ways:

• Count to 10 or practise some other form of mental relaxation (See Relaxation Skills). When you have calmed down, you will be better able to discuss the conflict rationally.

• Try screaming or yelling in a private place, not at other people.

• Go for a short walk or jog.

• Talk about your anger with a friend.

• Draw or paint to release the anger, or write about it in a journal.

Use "I" statements, not "you" statements, to discuss your anger. Say "I feel angry when my needs are not being met," instead of "You make me mad when you are so inconsiderate."

If you are angry with someone, listen to what the other person has to say. Try to understand his or her point of view.

Forgive and forget. Forgiving helps lower blood pressure and ease muscle tension so you can feel more relaxed.

Read books about anger and how to handle it. See Violent Behaviour for additional information about anger and violent behaviour.